Not Secret
Mar. 5th, 2010 07:44 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
altogetherisi OK, so this post might seem a bit odd, but whatever. Bare with me.
I read fandom secrets every day, and one thing comes up again and again. Several times I have thought about making a secret to express this to the comm, but a) I can't be bothered, b) it wouldn't change anything, c) its not that important, just something that bothers me and makes me sad to see, and most of all d) its hardly a secret. It's not even something I'd want to keep secret.
So, here I am, not keeping this opinion secret.
Over and over again, often several times each day, people confess secrets - and tame, silly secrets, about shipping B/C instead of A/B, or about not liking a certain kind of music, or about secretly liking a show, or book, or secretly hating a show or book, and ok some of the secrets are trolling, but I think many are probably real. And over and over again, I see people saying something like "Secret because my flist would hate me" or "secret because my flist would stop talking to me".
And I think, seriously? Your entire flist? Surely you are exaggerating just a tad?
And then I think, ok, that person really needs a better flist, because seriously? They would all turn on you? Especially when the opinion or whatever they are hiding (liking Twilight! hating Twilight! shipping a slightly different pairing! today, liking Mika!) are really not all that weird and there are plenty of people out there that share it.
And then I think, I am so happy and relaxed with my flist. I know some of you better than others, and I comment back and forth on posts more with some of you than others, but I genuinely like all you guys, and I'm pretty sure most of you do actually like me. Some of you I've known for years, some of you I haven't, some of you I've met, some of you I haven't, some of you I talk to almost every day, some of you I don't know nearly as well. Some of you are my brain twins, and some of you are my best friends. And I'm utterly confident that I can express myself, about important things, not just who I ship or what music I'm listening to or even, yes, my thoughts on Twilight, or on Rose, or on Harmony shippers, and that you guys wouldn't just randomly start flaming me or turn on me or whatever.
And, y'know what? That's precious, and special, and I really appreciate it. So thanks guys :) You rock.
I read fandom secrets every day, and one thing comes up again and again. Several times I have thought about making a secret to express this to the comm, but a) I can't be bothered, b) it wouldn't change anything, c) its not that important, just something that bothers me and makes me sad to see, and most of all d) its hardly a secret. It's not even something I'd want to keep secret.
So, here I am, not keeping this opinion secret.
Over and over again, often several times each day, people confess secrets - and tame, silly secrets, about shipping B/C instead of A/B, or about not liking a certain kind of music, or about secretly liking a show, or book, or secretly hating a show or book, and ok some of the secrets are trolling, but I think many are probably real. And over and over again, I see people saying something like "Secret because my flist would hate me" or "secret because my flist would stop talking to me".
And I think, seriously? Your entire flist? Surely you are exaggerating just a tad?
And then I think, ok, that person really needs a better flist, because seriously? They would all turn on you? Especially when the opinion or whatever they are hiding (liking Twilight! hating Twilight! shipping a slightly different pairing! today, liking Mika!) are really not all that weird and there are plenty of people out there that share it.
And then I think, I am so happy and relaxed with my flist. I know some of you better than others, and I comment back and forth on posts more with some of you than others, but I genuinely like all you guys, and I'm pretty sure most of you do actually like me. Some of you I've known for years, some of you I haven't, some of you I've met, some of you I haven't, some of you I talk to almost every day, some of you I don't know nearly as well. Some of you are my brain twins, and some of you are my best friends. And I'm utterly confident that I can express myself, about important things, not just who I ship or what music I'm listening to or even, yes, my thoughts on Twilight, or on Rose, or on Harmony shippers, and that you guys wouldn't just randomly start flaming me or turn on me or whatever.
And, y'know what? That's precious, and special, and I really appreciate it. So thanks guys :) You rock.
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Date: 2010-03-05 10:14 pm (UTC)I just don't think I'd defriend someone just because s/he dislikes a band a like or other equally petty thing, or even the meaningful ones, such as religion. On my flist, I have people from 15-year-old atheists to 20-year-old pagans and 45-year-old Christians and a lot of different kinds of people in between. Problems? No. The only problem I have had with my someone on my flist? Being called selfish because I didn't dedicate a post to Haiti after the earthquake. Rrrrright. :)