Not Secret

[altogetherisi]

 OK, so this post might seem a bit odd, but whatever. Bare with me.

I read fandom secrets every day, and one thing comes up again and again. Several times I have thought about making a secret to express this to the comm, but a) I can't be bothered, b) it wouldn't change anything, c) its not that important, just something that bothers me and makes me sad to see, and most of all d) its hardly a secret. It's not even something I'd want to keep secret.

So, here I am, not keeping this opinion secret.

Over and over again, often several times each day, people confess secrets - and tame, silly secrets, about shipping B/C instead of A/B, or about not liking a certain kind of music, or about secretly liking a show, or book, or secretly hating a show or book, and ok some of the secrets are trolling, but I think many are probably real. And over and over again, I see people saying something like "Secret because my flist would hate me" or "secret because my flist would stop talking to me".

And I think, seriously? Your entire flist? Surely you are exaggerating just a tad?

And then I think, ok, that person really needs a better flist, because seriously? They would all turn on you? Especially when the opinion or whatever they are hiding (liking Twilight! hating Twilight! shipping a slightly different pairing! today, liking Mika!) are really not all that weird and there are plenty of people out there that share it. 

And then I think, I am so happy and relaxed with my flist. I know some of you better than others, and I comment back and forth on posts more with some of you than others, but I genuinely like all you guys, and I'm pretty sure most of you do actually like me. Some of you I've known for years, some of you I haven't, some of you I've met, some of you I haven't, some of you I talk to almost every day, some of you I don't know nearly as well. Some of you are my brain twins, and some of you are my best friends. And I'm utterly confident that I can express myself, about important things, not just who I ship or what music I'm listening to or even, yes, my thoughts on Twilight, or on Rose, or on Harmony shippers, and that you guys wouldn't just randomly start flaming me or turn on me or whatever.

And, y'know what? That's precious, and special, and I really appreciate it. So thanks guys :) You rock.

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[khasael.livejournal.com]

I know there are people on my friends list who are appalled that I write fanfic. These are people who aren't into the whole 'fandom thing', most of which I know in person. I only learnt of fandoms and fanfic that wasn't Star Trek fanfic a year and a half ago, about the time the Maya fics were posted in their entirety for the final month. These same people follow me on Twitter, and have made comments there (I made some random comment about suddenly shipping Mal/Jayne, and the response I got was "dude, no"... From a former roommate of mine, a straight male, who spends an inordinate amout of time watching live shows with Drag Queens. I do not know exactly where the line is between slash and drag queens, but apparently, there is one). I tend to not mention as much about shipping (especially slash) there as I do here. But generally, I feel quite comfortable with my flist (especially with the addition of the Marmfish). I'm glad you are on it!

(Also, if someone wants to defriend me over how I feel over certain books, movies, and television shows, which pairs I ship (and some of them change at the drop of a hat, and in some cases, I have no OTP), etc., then what kind of friendship is that?)